I did not realize that I had not done my mammogram since 2013. I have no problem with all my other annual checkups. I have no issue with being poked, prodded and jabbed. The mammogram though is where I just find it’s antiquated. Why does my breast have to be thrust on a cold slab and squished? How do women without my ample breasts do a mammogram? I’m curious. How do ‘A and B’ cups do them? Don’t wait for 12 years though. And I had changed my name back to my maiden name so they thought I was lying about having a previous mammogram. Everyone please do your annual checks religiously. Early detection saves lives. If cancer is caught early it’s curable. I listened to an oncologist on Aproko doctor and it’s not about sugar. One of the urban myths is that sugar feeds cancer - no it’s not. And stop smoking. Every doctor I speak to says smoking is the biggest threat to health. So I did a Computerized Bone Mineralometry (MOC), a non-invasive diagnostic examination to assess the state of bone health according to Google. This investigation, which measures the amount and mass of minerals present in bones, is useful to diagnose osteoporosis, prevent fractures, and monitor the stages of the treatment adopted. I’m still in normal ranges. I did the bloods and of course there is some insulin resistance so we’re working on weight loss and overall I’m in good nick. I’m now left with my dental health which I dread. I had a racist dentist when I was young who believed (like the new minister of health in a country that shall remain unnamed), that Africans have a greater aptitude for pain and thus did not use any numbing gel for fillings. That drill still invokes horrors and childhood terrors.

All to say:

I feel so grateful to live in a country where I can do preventive health checks.

I feel so grateful to have medical aid.

I feel so grateful to be as healthy as I am despite my chronic illness.

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I spent 23 years of my life being a people pleaser. It almost killed me. I was everything to everyone and I was depressed. I felt as if I was in a tug of war with everyone wanting a piece of me. It’s not about other people it’s about me.

To anyone who feels as if they are drowning you have to go through it. If you’re in an abusive relationship prepare your exit. Remember the most dangerous time is when you leave. An abuser can and may choose to kill you. It can be fatal. If you made a mistake and maybe had a teen pregnancy or you chose not to study, or any life circumstance, don’t beat yourself up.

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